Your marriage is worth celebrating!
Hello! I’m Tracey Rosenberger founder of Marriage Confetti, and I help young Christian couples who desire to have a lasting marriage develop Biblically-based marriage skills so that they can resolve conflict effectively, grow more united with each passing year, and enjoy the fruits of a Christ-centered marriage.
Do you want to have the marriage that God intended for you?
How would it feel if you could reduce the frequency and intensity of disagreements in your marriage and truly start to work as a team?
It’s possible to have a successful marriage when you adopt and integrate Biblical principles, you just need to the support and tools to do it.
And without those Biblical principles as the root and foundation of your marriage, you may have been experiencing similar issues to what my family did . . .
As a child, I was the only child in my family and, to be honest, I was probably a little spoiled. I didn’t want for much.
The one thing that I WAS missing out on was a solid, stable relationship between my parents. I always wondered when they would finally get a divorce. Notice, I didn’t say “if.”
My parents had an invisible divorce. They looked like they were married, but there was very little actually connecting them, and neither of them was happy. Eventually, an actual divorce replaced their Invisible Divorce-- just ten days after I got married.
My parents’ break-up made me even more determined that my marriage would not end like that. I would make it work, no matter what.
As an adult, I experienced divorces every year through the students in my elementary classrooms. There was a never-ending parade of kids in this situation. Tragically, the percentage of kids who were living with both their parents got lower and lower.
One day, in conjunction with a reading assignment, my students were asked to answer this question: “Do you think people with kids should ever get divorced?” I have never forgotten the results.
Every child with intact families said it was probably ok to get a divorce, but every other child in the class who was from a broken home said no--except one. These kids shared the struggles they had living with parents who no longer live together or even get along.
And the one who thought it was okay when everyone else in the same situation said no? She was in therapy twice a week.
These experiences from teaching for nearly three decades stuck with me and made a deep impact.
I’ve seen the sad eyes of kids when the non-custodial parent ignores them, and I’ve seen the ones who played the parents off of one another to get what they want. I’ve seen the frustration they fight when they have to tell me that they left something “at their dad’s house.”
I heard about their struggles after they left me and went on to middle school, high school, and then adulthood carrying those scars.
These telling experiences that I observed over 26 years in the classroom teaching two generations of children, combined with my own challenging childhood experience, pushed me to study the most current research on how marriages can work best. I want to share that knowledge with you and help you make your marriage last.
You already know that it’s vital that marriages stay together for the sake of the children; but beyond that it’s just as critical that marriages last for the sake of the spouses too.
WHY is it necessary for couples to stay together for the sake of spouses, too?
They live longer. Nine out of ten married men who are alive at 48 will make it to 65, compared with just six in ten comparable single guys. Married women at 48 will also more likely live until 65 than single women. (9 out of 10 vs. 8 out of 10)
They have better mental health. Divorced people report less positive relationships with other people, less of a sense of purpose in life, and lower levels of self-acceptance than their married peers do.
They are happier. Only 18 percent of divorced adults say they are "very happy." They are twice as likely as married people to report that they are "not too happy" with their lives in general.
The research goes on and on.
But how can you get your marriage back on track if the wheels are already coming off?
Marriage Confetti equips you to celebrate marriage the way God intended it and offers support to those of you who are facing a marriage that may resemble an Invisible Divorce or be traveling down the path to a literal divorce.
If you want to improve your marriage, changes in the way you think are essential. When we work together to implement these shifts using our A+ Strategy for Marriage Coaching great things happen.
- Analyze: First, we help you evaluate your current thinking patterns to identify any limiting beliefs you have about your marriage.
- Adopt: Using Biblical truths we guide you to choose and implement new ways of thinking about your relationship.
- Activate: We support you with ways to put your new mindsets into action by letting those new thoughts control the way you speak and behave.
- Advise: We train you in marriage skills that will help you feel closer and more connected to one another.
- Accountability: Since a new way of thinking doesn’t happen overnight, we stay close to you through coaching calls and messaging to encourage you to stick with your new mindset.
Couples we have worked with in the past have...
Stopped threatening one another with divorce.
Decided to get married instead of just living together.
Learned how to react to one another in volatile situations.
Grown closer to God as individuals and as a couple.
Prioritized studying the Bible together.
As my husband, Dan, and I have built Marriage Confetti together and equipped our clients to enjoy a more permanent and mutually satisfying relationship, our faith in God as the healer of all relationships intensifies. I am in awe of what God can do when we believe and put actions to our words.
So why should you listen to what Dan and I have to say when it comes to marriage?
We’ve stayed married for almost 28 years. The average length of first marriages in the United States is only 8.2 years. So, staying married for that long is quite a feat in today’s society. Both of us have learned a lot over those years, and you can benefit from our experience.
Even though my parents’ marriage was not one I wanted to emulate, I have had the privilege of having a model of Christian marriage in my in-laws. Their example is worthy of anyone following.
Both Dan and I are also certified marriage mentors, encouraged and instructed by Les and Leslie Parrott.
Most of all, I want the best for your marriage, and I know how to make it happen. If you are willing to do the work and be coachable, I can equip you with the strategies you need to improve your marriage and keep yourself accountable as you implement them.
Incorporating Biblical principles into your marriage is the only sure way to grow a healthy marriage. If you desire transformation in your troubled marriage, Marriage Confetti is here to support you.