How do you react when you get angry with your spouse? Your reaction to a conflict can make or break your relationship. People who say they “have a short fuse” will explode on their partner and do things like screaming, calling names, or threatening their spouse. People with bad tempers often act irrationally, and it causes their spouses to live in a stressful environment where they feel like they have to walk on eggshells.
If that’s how your spouse feels about you, then they won’t believe that they can express their true feelings and communicate honestly with you. And when couples don’t communicate, the marriage suffers. And suffering marriage is precisely what Satan wants for you.
But, it’s not what God desires for your marriage.
Rely on God to Cool Your Temper in Conflict
God didn’t create you to have a short temper, but sometimes people convince themselves that having a short fuse is “just the way they are.” Don’t think of yourself in that way. Instead, replace that destructive self-talk with truth from God’s word.
Memorizing these verses will give you a way to combat the enemy when he tries to use a vicious temper to destroy a marriage. If your spouse struggles in this area, pray these verses over them that they can rely on God for their responses to conflict.
Proverbs 15:1 NCV
A gentle answer will calm a person’s anger,
but an unkind answer will cause more anger.
James 1:19-20 NCV
My dear brothers and sisters, always be willing to listen and slow to speak. Do not become angry easily, because anger will not help you live the right kind of life God wants.
Proverbs 14:29 NLT
People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness.
So before you allow your temper to get the best of you, stop. Keep your mouth closed for a moment while you think about what you truly need to say. Pray that you will be able to control your temper and communicate a feeling of compassion and understanding for your partner and not one of anger. Pray that you can speak with your spouse as Christ would.
Here’s a prayer for your marital conflicts.
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