Are you feeling distant from your spouse? There is one sure-fire way to change this.
Get closer to God, and you will get closer to your spouse. Your relationships with others will improve too. It’s a win-win for everyone in your life.
Before you read further, ask yourself, “What is my marriage revealing about my character?” How am I reacting to my spouse when something unpleasant happens in my life?
Are those events bringing out sides of you that are destructive to your relationship? Are you short-tempered? Impatient? Disrespectful?
Don’t avoid an honest look at yourself. Be willing to use your marriage to let God reveal areas in which you need to improve. Then use the Bible and prayer to work through them.
By getting closer to God and learning from Him, you will grow closer to your spouse. That’s because those changes from God will create more positive interactions between you, improving everyone’s view of the marriage.
How can you get started?
Look for verses in the Bible and resources that relate to how God expects us to treat others. Then decide what you can learn from it and try to apply that lesson to your relationship with your husband. Be 1000 times more intentional with your spouse than you think you should be.
Here are some verses that will help you to grow closer to God, and as a natural extension, your spouse.
Matthew 7:12: “Do to others what you want them to do to you. This is the meaning of the law of Moses and the teaching of the prophets.
Romans 12:10: Love each other like brothers and sisters. Give each other more honor than you want for yourselves.
Philippians 2:3-4: When you do things, do not let selfishness or pride be your guide. Instead, be humble and give more honor to others than to yourselves. Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others.
Colossians 3:14–And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
1 Peter 4:8–Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Proverbs 17:17–A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.
Galatians 5:13-14–For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
John 13:12-14–When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you? You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.
Matthew 23:11–The greatest among you shall be your servant.
Proverbs 25:28–A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
Proverbs 16:32–Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
Titus 3:2–To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.
1 Thessalonians 5:18–Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
1 Thessalonians 1:2–We give thanks to God always for all of you, constantly mentioning you in our prayers,
1 Corinthians 1:4–I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus,
Consider the verses
Don’t just read the verses. Ponder them. Ask yourself questions like, ”What am I learning?” What can I do to grow based on what I read?” or, “How could living this out improve my marriage?”
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You can do it!
If you are struggling in your marriage, remind yourself that you need to rely on God completely. Let that dissatisfaction spur you on to improving your own character and use those changes to improve your marriage. Life is not perfect, and your marriage won’t be either. But God is perfect and God is good, and you can glorify Him in your relationship. But you need to do the work.
Understanding yourself through a Biblical lens is key to improving your marriage and the quality of your life. Without God, your marriage will never be as fulfilling as it could be. With Him? See the difference as you grow in God yourself.
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