Keeping a favorable opinion of your spouse is not always easy. Those times when they neglect to do what they said would, or they come home from work in a bad mood can make it hard. But if we want to have a positive mindset about marriage, we have to remember that even at their worst, they are still a child of God.
Don’t let your emotions take over on days like this. Feelings can be extremely unreliable. God’s Word is entirely reliable, so here are some things you need to remember concerning how God sees your spouse.
They are valuable
Jesus died for all, including your spouse. I’ve often heard people say that if only one person had been willing to accept Jesus’ sacrifice that he still would have done it. Each of us is that important to him. When Jesus looks at your spouse, he sees someone that he loves so much that he gave his life for them.
But God’s mercy is so abundant, and his love for us is so great, that while we were spiritually dead in our disobedience he brought us to life with Christ. It is by God’s grace that you have been saved.–Ephesians 2:4-5
They are a new creation
At the moment we give our lives to Christ, the old is gone, and the new life begins. However, we still make mistakes, and Christ gives us a fresh start after over and over again. He never gets to the point where he isn’t willing to forgive. Can you give your spouse the benefit of the doubt and forgive?
If anyone belongs to Christ, there is a new creation. The old things have gone; everything is made new!–2 Corinthians 5:17
They have a calling
Jesus has a plan for every one of His children. Sometimes we stray away from those plans, and He needs to lead us back onto the path. Remember that God has something special in store for your spouse too, even if they don’t seem like they’re living a way that represents that plan. Encourage them with uplifting words and pray for them.
And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns.–Philippians 1:6
They are righteous
Their righteousness is through Him, just like yours. He sees all of us through a lens that is tinted by his blood. As Christians, when Jesus looks at us, he doesn’t see the sin, the mistakes or the failures. Can you recognize this view of your spouse? Can you put those “bad” things in perspective to the price that Jesus paid to make them holy?
Because of God you are in Christ Jesus, who has become for us wisdom from God. In Christ we are put right with God, and have been made holy, and have been set free from sin. —1 Corinthians 1:30
Decide today to be optimistic about your spouse. When you have one of those times when you are ready to just to give up on your spouse, take a moment. Breathe a few times. Then pray that God will help you to see what He sees when he looks at your spouse. Focus on the fact that your spouse is an imperfect person trying to find their way in life. Just like you.
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